What is self-love really? To tell people to love themselves is quite easy, but to understand what that means or what that looks like is quite another story indeed.
Yes, telling yourself “I love you,” is wonderful, but when you can’t even feel a tiny glimpse of like for yourself, this advice is meaningless and often doesn’t work.
So because of this, I decided to make a short list of some simple examples of self-love, along with an exercise below that you might find helpful.
Examples of Self-Love
Stopping and listening to your body’s needs – eating when you feel hungry and sleeping when you feel tired.
Taking a deep, slow, belly breath (you can also imagine breathing in love and breathing out fear).
Finding one thing that you like about your surroundings, wherever you are, and appreciating it with all your senses.
Giving yourself more credit than you think you deserve. Telling yourself: “I am much more beautiful than I think I am.” “I am capable of a lot more than I think I am.” “I love myself a lot more than I think I do.” The list goes on. This one is quite powerful, especially when saying, “I am beautiful” just doesn’t feel authentic.
Being in the present moment.
Exercise #1: Self-talk & Appreciation
Being present is a big gift of self-love. We tend to live in the past or the future, worrying and/or planning. Our brains, unfortunately, have no understanding of time and treat past and future thoughts exactly as if they are happening now, sending signals to our bodies to be ready for a fight or flight response. This can lead to a very adrenaline filled, overworked and overtired body that hasn’t even left the couch.
That’s why being present is the gift that keeps on giving. When we are present, we re-align our body, relax and enjoy life more.
Notice when you begin to worry about something that is not in front of you in the present moment.
Once you have noticed, take a deep, slow breath into your belly. This helps change the energy pattern of fear that is occurring.
Say to your self:
“HELLO FEAR, I HEAR YOU. THIS IS FEAR STEMMING FROM A MOMENT IN MY PAST AND IS NOT TRUE FOR ME IN MY PRESENT MOMENT. I DO NOT SEE THIS FEAR TANGIBLY IN FRONT OF ME AND SO I DON’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT THIS RIGHT NOW. THANK YOU, FEAR, FOR THIS OPPORTUNITY TO BE CONSCIOUS. I CHOOSE TO ENJOY THIS MOMENT AND I TRUST THAT I WILL KNOW WHAT TO DO WHEN AND IF THIS VISION ACTUALLY OCCURS. I AM ALWAYS SAFE.”
Then find something you like in your immediate environment that you can see, smell, touch, taste or hear and enjoy.
Be kind to yourself through this process. You may have to repeat this many times, as the more you practice it the easier it becomes.
Here’s to relaxing, being present and enjoying yourself! Much love to you all.